Kate Middleton and Meghan Markle \201cWere Not That Close\201d Prior to Meghan’s Royal Exit, Royal Author Says

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published 22 April 2023

According to royal author Tessa Dunlop, even before Meghan Markle (and Prince Harry) left as working members of the royal family in 2020, she and sister-in-law Kate Middleton were “clearly not that close,” adding that the women’s correspondence was “frosty, but polite,” according to OK.

Meghan has opened up about Kate—case in point: her and Harry’s 2021 sit-down interview with Oprah Winfrey—but Kate has never had the opportunity to do the reverse and tell her side of the story, Dunlop said.

“Kate is a well-mannered girl,” Dunlop said. “She got brought up in a public school. She’s never going to dish the dirt. She’s never going to give what others want, no matter how often you pick the scab.”

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Dunlop then went on to explain that Kate had “years in training” prior to joining the royal family—something Meghan was never given.

“Kate’s values were deference, appropriate levels of self-possession within a system, don’t rock the boat, you make change through embracing the institution almost—the paradox, Meghan’s the other way around,” she said of the two women’s approaches to the monarchy. “They’re totally like inverted versions of each other.”

In addition to the Oprah interview, while it was Harry and not Meghan herself writing Spare, the Duke of Sussex opened up more about details surrounding Kate and Meghan’s fractured relationship in his book: Harry alleged that Kate felt the need to “compete” with Meghan, writing specifically of a 2018 event that “I think it had Kate on edge, while putting her and everyone else on notice that she was now going to be compared to, and forced to compete with, Meg.”

It remains unclear where Kate and Meghan’s relationship stands today. What we do know is they will not get the opportunity to interact at King Charles’ upcoming Coronation on May 6 at Westminster Abbey in London. While Kate will be in attendance, Meghan will stay home with her two children, Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet, in California and miss the event.

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