Carole Middleton Admitted Press Intrusion Wore on Her Family During William and Kate's Courtship: "I Haven't Asked for All This"

"I’m not a celebrity and don’t want to be one."

Kate Middleton wearing brown jacket and cowboy hat and walking next to Carole Middleton wearing a tan vest in front of green trees
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Carole Middleton has long been accused of orchestrating Kate Middleton's relationship with Prince William, but according to a report, the mother of the future Queen once shared frustrations about how the royal courtship impacted her family.

Daily Mail reporter Richard Eden wrote in his Thursday, Jan. 30 column that Carole—whose daughter had been dating Prince William for five years at the time—had revealed to him what it was like for the Middletons behind the scenes while attending a 2008 horse race.

"'You see, I feel very vulnerable about everything,' she told me at the Hennessy Gold Cup, at Newbury racecourse, just a few miles from her house in Berkshire," Eden penned. Carole, who also shares daughter Pippa and son James with husband Michael Middleton, continued that the press intrusion around their family had impacted them greatly.

"I’m not a celebrity and don’t want to be one," she told Eden at the time. "Celebrities have minders and PR people. I don’t want a PR person and wouldn’t want to have to pay to employ one. I haven’t asked for all this."

Carole Middleton wearing jeans and a dark sweater walking outside in front of a fence next to her husband Michael Middleton

Carole and Michael Middleton posed for an official photo shoot once William and Kate's engagement was announced in 2010.

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Carole, Michael, James, Alizee and Pippa Middleton wearing dressy coats and suits walking outside in front of Christmas trees in the dark entering a carol concert

The Middleton family, including James's wife, Alizée, supported the Princess of Wales at her December 2024 Together at Christmas carol concert.

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Carole, who launched party supply story Party Pieces from her home and grew it into a hugely successful venture, continued that she was "worried" about James and Pippa, as well as her company.

"I'm concerned about my business; that's my focus," she told Eden during their 2008 meeting. "I don't want the attention to detract from that. I'm also worried for my family. I have three children, not just Catherine."

There has long been a narrative that Carole was the one who pushed Kate to attend the University of St. Andrews in order to snag a prince, even though the couple had already met as teenagers. The rumor has continued over the years in the media, in books, and on The Crown, as Eden noted, but as the columnist wrote, Prince William was the one who went after Kate, "and not the other way round."

Carole's brother, Gary Middleton, told The Crown: Fact or Fiction podcast that his sister's portrayal on the show was "that bad" he wondered "why Carole hasn't taken legal action." While the show made it seem like Kate's mom had pushed her into going after the prince, William actually paid £200 to win a date with Middleton during a charity auction, as revealed by one of their former university classmates in a recent interview.

As for Carole, the 69-year-old entrepreneur will mark her 70th birthday on Friday, Jan. 31—and with the Princess of Wales now in remission from cancer and seven grandchildren to spoil, it seems like she has plenty to celebrate this year.

Kristin Contino
Senior Royal and Celebrity Editor

Kristin Contino is Marie Claire's Senior Royal and Celebrity editor. She's been covering royalty since 2018—including major moments such as the Platinum Jubilee, Queen Elizabeth II’s death and King Charles III's coronation—and places a particular focus on the British Royal Family's style and what it means.

Prior to working at Marie Claire, she wrote about celebrity and royal fashion at Page Six Style and covered royalty from around the world as chief reporter at Royal Central. Kristin has provided expert commentary for outlets including the BBC, Sky News, US Weekly, the Today Show and many others.

Kristin is also the published author of two novels, “The Legacy of Us” and “A House Full of Windsor.” She's passionate about travel, history, horses, and learning everything she can about her favorite city in the world, London.