Pippa Middleton's Wedding Etiquette Tips, According to a Former Royal Butler
"With royals, you don't go up and speak to them."


The former butler to Prince Charles, Prince William, and Prince Harry, appeared on Sky News on Saturday to discuss Pippa Middleton's wedding, and the etiquette expected of guests. Grant Harrold dubs himself "Britain's Official Etiquette Expert", and having worked with the royal family, he has a keen insight into how attendees will be expected to behave.
Harrold was quick to state that the wedding of Pippa Middleton and James Matthews, "will have the feel of a royal wedding, and of course there'll be a lot of security. But it's not exactly a royal wedding because it's not royals getting married." But as Kate Middleton's family will be there, the event's security is understandably tight.
The Royal Butler chatted to Sky News about the "protocols that have got to be considered" when attending an event with the royal family. He said, "Traditional protocol would state that with royals, you don't go up and speak to them. You wait for them to actually come to you." Basically, patience is key, which is obviously important advice for any fan of the royal family who one day hopes to meet them.
I will be on @SkyNews this morning around 8.15 talking about Pippa Middleton's wedding which takes place today in Bucklebury. #wedding pic.twitter.com/Oel5QFiQwkMay 20, 2017
The etiquette expert was also asked if Prince Harry's girlfriend Meghan Markle had been getting "etiquette lessons", but he said this was unlikely. According to Harrold, apparently "the royal etiquette is known, there is no secret about it". This should give everyone hope that they too can one day become a royal.
If one needs to visit the loo/lavatory during a meal, never explain where or why you are going. Simply say "Please excuse me" as you rise. pic.twitter.com/qcacmdyqH3May 19, 2017
Harrold did reveal that he gives classes on royal etiquette, which might be something you want to add to your birthday wish list.
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Amy Mackelden is the weekend editor at Marie Claire, where she covers celebrity and royal family news. She was the weekend editor at Harper’s BAZAAR for three years, where she covered breaking celebrity and entertainment news, royal stories, fashion, beauty, and politics. Prior to that, she spent a year as the joint weekend editor for Marie Claire, ELLE, and Harper's BAZAAR, and two years as an entertainment writer at Bustle. Her additional bylines include Cosmopolitan, People, The Independent, HelloGiggles, Biography, Shondaland, Best Products, New Statesman, Heat, and The Guardian. Her work has been syndicated by publications including Town & Country, Good Housekeeping, Esquire, Delish, Oprah Daily, Country Living, and Women's Health. Her celebrity interviews include Jennifer Aniston, Jessica Chastain, the cast of Selling Sunset, Emma Thompson, Jessica Alba, and Penn Badgley. In 2015, she delivered an academic paper at Kimposium, the world's first Kardashian conference.
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