Lily Allen Says Her \201cDaddy Issues\201d Impacted Her Romantic Relationships

\201cMy dad walked out on me when I was 4, I’m sick of this.\201d

Lily Allen says her "daddy issues" impacted her romantic relationships.
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Lily Allen isn't afraid to admit that her complicated relationship with her father had a very real impact on her romantic life.

In the recent episode of Allen's podcast Miss Me? podcast, which she hosts alongside her best friend Miquita Oliver, the singer said one of her more baby-faced 90s crushes was an "anomaly" when compared to the older, "fatherly figures" she typically pursued.

“Because I will always just, you know, I’m daddy issues, aren’t I?" Allen quipped. "I just want a big, old, hairy daddy forever. That’s all I want.

"I know who my dad was, and my dad was sort of there but not there," Allen continued, adding that her father was "inconsistent" while her co-hosts father was completely absent.

"So, I think that you, yours, was slightly like a fantasy whereas mine was, like, trying to recreate something that existed," she added. "Hence the obsessions."

David Harbour (L) and Lily Allen attend the press night performance of "Stranger Things: The First Shadow" at The Phoenix Theatre on December 14, 2023 in London, England.

David Harbour and Lily Allen attend the press night performance of 'Stranger Things: The First Shadow' at The Phoenix Theatre on December 14, 2023 in London, England. 

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It was far from the first time Allen has discussed how her relationship with her father has impacted her romantic relationships.

In a 2009 interview with the Sunday Telegraph, Allen recalled the “the day that Dad left, and us all saying goodbye to him in the hall of our flat in Bloomsbury."

"I just remember there being a thing of 'does that mean Dad's never going to be around?’” she said at the time. “Then, of course, Dad did go, and didn't come back for a while."

In 2015, Allen expressed her frustration with how her father's inconsistency throughout her childhood continued to impact her as an adult.

“My dad walked out on me when I was 4, I’m sick of this," the singer posted on X, formerly known as Twitter. "My dad was at Latitude when I headlined and didn’t even come to see me. I’ve probably spent more time walking my dogs than I have with my dad my entire life.”

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In her 2018 memoir My Thoughts Exactly, Allen described her father as “self-saboteur” and a "narcissist," and claimed he had experienced a cocaine-related heart attack at Glastonbury Festival in 1998 when she was just a teenager, HuffPost reported at the time.

After her memoir's release, Allen revealed she received “quite a cross text from him this weekend" while appearing on the  Jonathan Ross Show.

“He texted me, ‘Err cocaine induced heart attack at Glastonbury? Wow.’ And I said, ‘Sorry that’s what I thought.' I said, ‘I’m really sorry if I got that wrong but that’s how I remembered it and you never explained it to me in any other way so that’s what I wrote’ and he said, ‘Well that’s not true.’"

Allen married Sam Cooper in 2011 and had two daughters before getting divorced in 2018. The singer remarried in 2020People reported at the time, and now co-parents her daughters with her husband and Stranger Things star David Harbour.

Danielle Campoamor
Weekend Editor

Danielle Campoamor is Marie Claire's weekend editor covering all things news, celebrity, politics, culture, live events, and more. In addition, she is an award-winning freelance writer and former NBC journalist with over a decade of digital media experience covering mental health, reproductive justice, abortion access, maternal mortality, gun violence, climate change, politics, celebrity news, culture, online trends, wellness, gender-based violence and other feminist issues. You can find her work in The New York Times, Washington Post, TIME, New York Magazine, CNN, MSNBC, NBC, TODAY, Vogue, Vanity Fair, Harper's Bazaar, Marie Claire, InStyle, Playboy, Teen Vogue, Glamour, The Daily Beast, Mother Jones, Prism, Newsweek, Slate, HuffPost and more. She currently lives in Brooklyn, New York with her husband and their two feral sons. When she is not writing, editing or doom scrolling she enjoys reading, cooking, debating current events and politics, traveling to Seattle to see her dear friends and losing Pokémon battles against her ruthless offspring. You can find her on X, Instagram, Threads, Facebook and all the places.

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