Latest articles by Rich Santos
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5 Ways To Make Me Miss You
The other side of enjoying time with your significant other is missing them when they are not around.
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Why Do We Have One Night Stands?
What is the purpose of the one-night stand? I don't condone one-night stands; for me they've led to awkwardness, and self-loathing (of course I'm filled with self loathing without sex in my life, so wh...
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The Relationship Road Map
It stands to reason that, as someone who is eternally lost, I am lost in the dating world.
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How Lying Helps Your Relationship
They say "honesty is the best policy," and this rings true in dating. But women accuse me of speaking too truthfully, believe it or not.
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Ridiculous Ways Men Get Women To Go Home With Them
Do you ever go home with a guy because hes got a great gimmick?
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What Makes Someone "Dating Material"?
Due to my lack of networking with women, I've painted myself as "non-dating" material. I didn't think anything made one guy more "dateable" than another.
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Is Chivalry A Dying Art?
One of my vivid childhood memories took place on a soccer field. When I was four or so, the soccer leagues were co-ed. In those days there was no method to the madness for us fledgling players. The ball would move and we'd all fo...
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From Friend to Lover: Flirting 101
One night, my friend Melissa told us that she had a quandary with a guy who was coming out to meet her at the bar. Melissa and him were friends, but she couldn't figure out how to get it to the next level. Melissa's friends said "just flirt with hi...
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A Cute Gesture, Or Total Insanity?
My friend went temporarily psycho a few weeks ago when her overseas love interest visited NYC from Denmark.
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Have You Ever Been Attracted by a Deal Sealer?
We've all heard of deal breakers. But the other day I was wondering if the opposite existed: The Deal Sealer. Do we sometimes go for someone because of a little perk? If someone is nice, funny, or intelligent, it can't be considered a deal sealer. It has to be something outside of personality. The classic Deal Sealer is money. It's a superficial perk, but sometimes it is enough for us to be attracted to someone. With a deal Deal Sealer, we convince ourselves that this person will become nice, smart or funny with time...or we are really pulling for them to do so.Is it possible to have that person grow on you beyond the appeal of their Deal Sealer perk? The vast majority of relationships based on a Deal Sealer will fizzle out. A fun perk can only last so long. Eventually, there needs to be some substance. Here are some Deal Sealers I've seen:
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The Last One Standing
A couple of weeks ago, my high school reunion served as yet another reminder that I'm part of a dying breed: the single guy. My peers are all ahead of me, and I'm even being lapped by some. Unfortunately, my high sc...
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6 Questions About Love
Humankind is united in its quest for love. But it's so crazy how people can't figure out what it really is or how it works. I've thought about love just about every day of my life and I'm no closer to solving the mystery. He...
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6 Post-Breakup Remedies
Going right out and meeting someone to get over an ex is not fair to you, or that new lover.
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Do You Like A Guy Who Cries?
I think it's OK for guys to cry. Even though it can push a girl away from time to time. I've only seen my dad cry once in my entire life.
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Do You Drunk Dial?
Why is it that when we get drunk, we turn our phones into weapons by drunk dialing?
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4 Over-Rated Sex Locations
I laid down on the kitchen table to see what the big deal was about having sex on it - it was like lying on a board.
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Do You Have a Prince Charming?
Rich's jadedness has not yet caused him to lose his hopes for romantic possibilities.
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Is Meeting People Tougher Than Math?
The abundance of single, attractive, and available people in Rich's life gets smaller and smaller as he gets older.
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What's Irking You?
It would be impossible to co-exist with someone who did not irk you at some point.
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Have You Ever Lied to Appear More Attractive?
You want to have a good enough story to engage someone, but if you make it too good, they will be disappointed when it turns out to not be true.
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Have You Ever Been on the Rebound?
It occurred to me how dangerous it is for a woman if she's on the rebound in the dating world.
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The Ultimate Wing Man
Jake is responsible for some of the most brazen moves I've made.
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How Your Senses Affect Your Relationship
Guys are visual creatures, but the other senses are important for a complete experience with someone.
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Is It Ever Okay for a Guy to Be Jealous?
If you don't act jealous at all, you look like you don't care.
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Can a Guy Be Too Nice?
Women say they want the nice guy. But I'm not so sure.
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9 Reasons People Cheat
Why do I find it so easy not to cheat? Maybe I'm not very attractive, so my options are limited. Maybe I'm too jaded to go for the cheating opportunities.
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16 Girls, 16 Lessons Learned (Part 1)
As you know, my life has been filled with dating mistakes, and the occasional lucky triumph.
